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Basildon
Essex SS14 OND

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If you are worried about someone knowing you have visited this website, please take a few minutes to read the information below and to take steps to increase your safety when using the internet. How an abuser can discover your internet activities Email: If an abuser has access to your email account, they may be able to read your incoming and outgoing mail. If you believe your account is secure, make sure you choose a password that an abuser will not be able to guess. If an abuser sends you threatening or harassing email messages, they may be copied or saved and printed as evidence of this abuse. History or cache files: If an abuser knows how to read your computer's history or cache file (automatically saved web paged and graphics), they may be able to see information you have viewed recently on the internet. You can clear your history or empty your cashe file in your browser's settings as follows: Internet Explorer: Pull down Tools menu Select Delete Browsing History Select Delete Files Select Delete History Select Delete Forms Firefox: Pull down Tools menu Select Clear Private Data Tick Browsing History, Saved Form and Search History and Cache Select Clear Private Data Now AOL: Pull down Members menu select Preferences Select WWW icon Then select Advanced, Purge Cache Toolbars: Toolbars such as Google, AOL and Yahoo keep a record of the words you have typed into the search box. To erase all the search words you have typed in, you will need to check the individual instructions for each type of toolbar. For example, for the Google toolbar all you need to do is click on the Google icon, and choose "Clear Search History".

When you first come into the refuge a member of staff will help you apply for either job seekers allowance, income support and housing benefit plus other benefits you may be entitled to.

If you are employed you may still be able to qualify for housing benefit, and working families tax credit. We can advise you on your entitlement and any other welfare issues that may arise.

The Council works closely with Basildon Women's Aid to ensure that the needs of the women are met. A designated Homeless Officer is the liaison officer between the Council and the refuge.

The designated Homeless Officer ensures that queries raised by the women about their rehousing, are answered. She also attends the refuge on a regular basis so women do not have to leave the safety of the refuge to make a homeless application in order to obtain rehousing.

Our Homeless Officer completes a 'homeless' application for a resident

One of the services offered to all those who make contact with Basildon Women's Aid is access to confidential Legal Advice. For many women entering the Refuge, Legal matters may be the last thing on their mind, but it gives them comfort to know that when they are ready to deal with legal matters, there is an experienced family law solicitor to advise them. Even if you are not a resident at the Refuge, you can meet with one of our solicitors to discuss matters in a relaxed confidential environment.

The aim of our service is fivefold:

1. To provide local facilities, where women suffering domestic violence are able to come for one to one and group support, and have the legal, housing and practical advice which will enable them to make choices
   
2. To raise awareness of domestic violence issues in the Community
   
3. To raise awareness of domestic violence issues in Schools
   
4. To work both collectively and offer a complementary service to other local agency teams in order to provide a better range and quality of services to residents in the Basildon area
   
5. To provide resettlement support to women moving on from the refuge

The Sanctuary Scheme Project

The Sanctuary Scheme Project is a victim centred initiative, which aims to make it possible for victims of domestic violence to remain in their home and feel safe. The scheme enhances a person's property with physical security measures, which helps the family feel safe.

It is recognised that victims of domestic violence live in fear of repeat incidents. This frequently results in them having to move homes on numerous occasions, with the associated problems of moving away from support networks, family and friends. Many victims of domestic violence would prefer to stay in their own homes if they had the option.

What is the "Sanctuary Scheme"

The main feature of the project is the creation of a "Sanctuary room". Every "sanctuary" is tailored to accommodate the needs and circumstances of the individuals involved.

The Sanctuary room consists of having an internal door replaced with a solid core door and reversing it to open outwards so that the doorjamb acts as an additional barrier. Two locks are fitted to the top and bottom of the door as well as steel hinges, hinge bolts and a 180° door viewer. Fire precaution equipment is also provided. This provides a safe room or "Sanctuary" for victims to call for and await the arrival of police. Additional security can be provided as necessary, for example, locks on windows and doors.

Who is eligible for the Sanctuary Scheme

Under S177 of the Housing Act 1996, as amended by the Homelessness Act 2002, a Local Authority has the responsibility to assess whether it is reasonable for a person to continue to occupy accommodation.

The Act states that it is not reasonable for a person to continue to occupy accommodation if it is probable that this will lead to domestic violence or other violence against them, or against:-

1. A person who normally resides with them as a member of their family
2. Any person who might reasonably be expected to reside with them.

Referrals for the Sanctuary Scheme

Referrals to the Sanctuary Scheme can be made from members of the Domestic Violence Forum via the Local Authority. Once a referral has been received the Local Authority's Homeless officer or Housing Advice Officer will interview you and discuss if the Sanctuary Scheme is an option for you. If the scheme is an option a referral will be made to Women's Aid at Basildon for outreach support for you during the process.

What do I need to bring with me?

Personal belongings i.e.: clothes, valuables, child benefit book, income support book, birth certificate, driving licence, passport plus any other forms of ID.

Will I be safe?

We have CCTV (closed circuit TV monitors) all around the refuge and admittance is by security intercom only.

Will I have my own room?

Where possible, every family is allocated their own room. There are single rooms available for women without children.

What facilities are there for my children?

We have child workers, a well equipped playroom with adjoining softroom available.
Please see: About the Refuge for more information.

Can I bring my pets?

Unfortunately we cannot accommodate pets. Local organisations may be able to help. pawsforkids.org.uk
The Link between Animal Abuse and Domestic Violence

Is their storage space?

Storage space is limited. There is only room for your personal belongings.

How long can I stay?

There is no fixed length of stay. Although the refuge is temporary accommodation it can be your home for as long as you need while you decide what to do.

Will I get help with applying for Income Support and Housing Issues?

We have a refuge worker specialising in Housing & Benefits advice.

Would I be able to see a Solicitor and a Counsellor at the refuge?

Yes, a solicitor and counsellor visit the refuge regularly.

Is there a smoking area, also is alcohol allowed?

Smoking is allowed in a designated area. Alcohol is not allowed on the premises.

Can I go out if I want?

Yes

How much will all this cost?

A nominal amount is required for heating and lighting costs, and a refundable deposit will be payable. Rents are normally paid by housing benefit.

Can my mum, sisters and friends contact me at the refuge?

Messages can be passed on from family and close friends, and visits arranged.

Will my children be able to continue at their own schools, or will they have to change?

There are infant, junior and secondary schools close by if your children need to change schools. Your children can continue at their own schools if you consider it safe for them to do so and are able to provide transport.

BWA offers temporary accommodation for women of all ages, races and cultures, with or without children. The refuge is a communal home with shared facilities for twelve families, we also have a total of sixteen self-contained units of accommodation for families. Our residents pay an accommodation fee and the remainder of our funding comes from public funding, fund-raising and charitable donations. Our experienced staff offer support to families to enable them to move on and live a life free of abuse together with a range of activities for the children from fun outings and parties to therapeutic programmes of support.

Some women, despite suffering domestic abuse, do not wish to leave home, and they are supported through our Outreach Centre and satellite surgeries in Brentwood, Castle Point and Rochford. Please see our Help and Services page for more information.

We also offer an extensive programme of talks and training sessions to voluntary and statutory organisations and schools. Our trained refuge and outreach staff, as well as offering support and advice on welfare, housing, schooling, legal and women’s rights, encourage women to regain a sense of worth.

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The opening of the 2nd stage annexe is a wonderful extension to the refuge; it offers temporary accommodation, which consists of kitchen, bathroom, 2 bedrooms and a lounge. There are laundry facilities on the ground floor with an automatic washing machine and a tumble dryer.

In all the apartments, there are built in fire alarms, and smoke alarms, these are checked at regular intervals.

The garden is a good size, it has an industrial washing line, and a handy shed to store bikes and pushchairs. Our garden is maintained at regular intervals.

There is plenty of parking outside the annexe with allocated parking space.

Staff visit the annexe daily to deliver post and report any repairs. The facilities of the main refuge are available if required.

We provide the following services to children living at the refuge

Family mediation sessions

Family mediation sessions involve both mum and child meeting with support workers to listen to each other's views and discuss problems which may have arisen. Both parties have the opportunity to express their inner thoughts with staff members present to support. We also offer the children one-to-one sessions allowing the child to speak to a member of staff about their problems.

Self Esteem Sessions

We provide Self Esteem Sessions at a local school to help children settle in and manage any worries or problems.

Children’s Group

A weekly children’s group, funded by Children's Fund Essex, has successfully been running for three years enabling the children to express thoughts and concerns with the support of an independent social worker. The children can talk openly and safely about the domestic violence they have witnessed helping them to deal with the abuse experienced.

Mothers and Toddlers

Mother and toddler sessions encourage interaction between the mother and child, the women can also seek practical parenting advice. Lots of the women will ask for support in for example how to discipline their children, we talk about tactics such as time out etc.

Pre-School

This is for children aged 2 - 5 years. We are Ofsted registered.

After School Club

The after school club provides anti bullying awareness training for the teenagers.

Teen Group

We provide activities for the teenagers that develop their social skills, we have previously had workshops on CV writing, bullying etc.

Health Visitor/Nurse

We have a Health Visitor that visits the refuge fortnightly, to support the women with any health issues for the children. We also have a school nurse that is available to see children on an individual basis or with the mother to speak about issues such as puberty, she can also take height, weight, blood pressure measurements etc.

Art Therapy

A qualified therapist runs a group with about six children aged between 5 - 11, these sessions give the children the opportunity to express themselves through a creative outlet.

Arts and Crafts

A student from the local college visits weekly and does arts and crafts activities with the mums and children.

Activities

We provide fun activities but we also provide activities to support them in dealing with the trauma of their experiences, workers are available to speak with children on a one to one basis and in group settings, at the child's level and when they are ready.
We organise outings and trips for the women and children. Easter, summer, Christmas holidays etc.
We have a garden play area that has a soft surface. It is split into 2 sections for younger and older children.
We leave welcome gifts in the rooms for the children residents.

Women’s Aid defines domestic violence as a pattern of abusive and controlling behaviour in close or intimate relationships. It includes physical, emotional, sexual and mental abuse.

The abuse is used most frequently by men to maintain power over ‘their’ women within family relationship. But children, and other family members, can also be hurt.

Violence can also occur in lesbian and gay relationships, as well as from women to men.

It can include a range of behaviour:

• Physical violence – slapping, burning, beating, kicking, biting, knife wounds often leading to permanent injuries, and sometimes death.
• Sexual abuse – rape, forced sexual acts, sexual degradation.
• Emotional abuse - intimidation, bullying, constant criticism, keeping someone locked up, and isolated from friends and family.
• Threats – to harm her family, to take her children away, to kill her.

There are many popular myths and prejudices about domestic violence. These stereotypes are often at the root of the negative responses abused women receive when they seek help. Not only does this lead to wrong advice being given, but it causes much unnecessary suffering.

These stereotypes are not backed up by any research and can prevent the needs and circumstances of the woman seeking help from being properly understood.

Below are some of the more common prejudices women who have suffered violence encounter some of them contradictory, most of them is some way blaming the victim of domestic violence, or minimising the experience.

The following is a list of personality traits that may indicate a potential abuser. It is not the purpose of the listing to imply that every person with some of these characteristics is an abuser or potential abuser.

Jealousy

At the start of the relationship, an abuser will equate jealousy with love. He will question the victim about who she talks to, accuse her of flirting, or become jealous of time spent with others.

Controlling Behaviour

In the beginning, an abuser will attribute his controlling behaviour to concern for his partner (for example, his partner's safety or decision-making skills). As this behaviour progresses the situation will worsen. He may assume all control of finances or prevent his partner from coming and going as she wishes.

Quick Involvement

An abused woman often has known or dated her abuser for less than 6 months before getting married, or engaged, or living together. He will pressure his partner to commit to the relationship. Later, a victim may feel guilty for wanting to slow the pace or end the relationship.

Unrealistic Expectations

An abuser will attempt to isolate his victim by severing her ties to outside support and resources. The abuser will accuse others, such as the victim's friends and family of being "trouble makers". He may block his partner's access to use of a vehicle, work, or telephone service in the home.

Blames others for problems

An abuser will blame others for his shortcomings. Someone is always out to get him or is an obstacle to his achievements. The victim or potential victim will be blamed for almost anything that goes wrong.

Blames others for feelings

An abuser will use 'feelings' to manipulate his victim. Common phrases to look for: You're hurting me by not doing as I want". "You control how I feel".

Hypersensitivity

An abused person is easily insulted. He perceives the slightest setbacks as personal attacks.

Cruelty to animals or Children

This is a person who punishes animals brutally or is insensitive to their pain. He may expect children to perform beyond their capability (for example smacking a 2-year old for wetting a nappy, or teasing children until they cry).

"Playful" use of force in sex

This behaviour includes restraining partners against their will during sex; acting out fantasies in which the partner is helpless; initiating sex when the partner is asleep; or demanding sex when the partner is ill or tired. He may show little concern for his partner's wishes and will use sulking and anger to manipulate compliance.

Verbal abuse

This behaviour involves saying things that are intended to be cruel and hurtful, cursing or degrading the partner, or putting down his partner's accomplishments.

Rigid sex roles

The victim, almost always a woman, will be expected to serve. For instance, a male abuser will see women as inferior to men, responsible for menial tasks, stupid and unable to be a whole person without a relationship.

Dual personality

"Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde" - Explosive behaviour and moodiness, which can shift quickly to congeniality are typical of people who beat their partners.

Past abuse

An abuser will victimise any partner he is with if the individual is involved with him long enough for the cycle of abuse to begin; circumstances do not make a person an abusive personality.

Threats of violence

This consists of any threat of physical force meant to control the partner. Most people do not threaten their mates but an abuser will excuse this behaviour by claiming "everyone talks like that".

Breaking or striking objects

This behaviour is used as punishment (breaking sentimental possessions) or to terrorise the victim into submission.

Any force during an Argument

This may involve an abuser holding down his partner, physically restraining his partner, or pushing and shoving. Holding someone back in order to make demands, such as shouting "You will listen", is also a show of force.

Lorraine Radford, (Roehampton Institute), Marianne Hester and Chris Pearson, (School for Policy Studies, University of Bristol) - May 1998

Almost half (44%) of all incidents reported by women to the British Crime Survey were domestic violence incidents. (British Crime Survey 1996, Home Office).

Since 1981, the largest increase in violent crimes has been in incidents of domestic violence (British Crime Survey 1996, Home Office).

A number of local surveys in the UK show between 1 in 3 and 1 in 4 women report having suffered domestic violence at some time in their adult lives.

A household survey of 430 women in a London borough found that 1 in 3 women had experienced domestic violence at some time in their lives, 12% had been victims of domestic violence in the past year (Jayne Mooney (1993) The Hidden Figure: Domestic Violence in North London, Middlesex University Centre for Criminology).

A survey of 484 women in Surrey's shopping centres found that 1 in 4 defined themselves as having suffered domestic violence from a male partner or ex-partner since the age of 18 years (Nicola Dominy & Lorraine Radford (1996) Domestic Violence in Surrey: Towards an Effective Inter-Agency Response, Surrey Social Services / Roehampton Institute).

A survey of 281 women attending GP surgeries in West London found that 1 in 3 (33%) reported suffering abuse from a male partner (Alison McGibbon, Libby Cooper & Liz Kelly (1988) What Support?, Child and Woman Abuse Study Unit, University of North London).

A recent survey of 129 women attending GPs surgeries in North London found 1 in 9 reported experiences of domestic violence serious enough to require medical attention in the past 12 months (Elizabeth Stanko, Debbie Crisp, Chris Hale and Hebe Lucraft (1997) Counting The Costs: Estimating The Impact of Domestic Violence in the London Borough of Hackney, Swindon: Crime Concern).

Similar findings are reported from research overseas. For example the largest recent survey of violence against women involved a telephone survey of over 11,000 women in Canada. One in three reported violence from their partners (Statistics Canada (1996) Survey on Violence Against Women in Canada).

A survey of 1000 women in city centres in North England found that 1 in 8 women reported having been raped by their husbands or partners (Painter, K. (1991) Wife Rape and The Law Survey Report: Key Findings And Recommendations, Department of Social Policy & Social Work, University of Manchester).

As many as 1 in 3 marriages that end in divorce involve domestic violence (Borkowski, Murch & Walker (1983) Marital Violence, Tavistock).

Each year, 45% of female homicide victims are killed by present or former male partners compared to 8% of male victims. On average, 2 women per week are killed in England and Wales by their partners/ex-partners (Criminal Statistics (1992) Home Office).

Repeat victimisation is common. Half of all victims of domestic violence are involved in incidents more than once (British Crime Survey 1996 Home Office).

Weapons are less likely to be used in assaults but victims of domestic violence are more likely to be injured (British Crime Survey 1996 Home Office).

1 in 4 incidents result in substantial physical injuries. 10% of 129 women surveyed in North London GP surgeries reported being knocked unconscious by their partners. 5% had sustained broken bones as a result of domestic violence. (Elizabeth Stanko, Debbie Crisp, Chris Hale and Hebe Lucraft (1997) Counting The Costs: Estimating The Impact of Domestic Violence in the London Borough of Hackney, Swindon: Crime Concern).

Women who are physically abused report physical injuries on average four occasions during a twelve month period (Jayne Mooney (1993) The Hidden Figure: Domestic Violence in North London, Middx University Centre for Criminology).

60% of 127 women resident in refuges in Northern Ireland experienced violence during pregnancy. 13% lost their babies as a result (Monica McWilliams & Joan McKiernan (1993) Bringing it out into the open, Belfast HMSO).

Domestic violence often continues and may escalate in severity after separation. As many as one-third of women who leave refuges experience continued abuse and harassment from their ex-partners (Binney, Harkell & Nixon, (1988) Leaving Violent Men, Bristol: WAFE).

Women are at greatest risk of homicide at the point of separation or after leaving a violent partner (Daly & Wilson (1988) Homicide, Aldane Gruyter).

Domestic violence is the least likely violent crime to be reported to the police. Only one out of three crimes resulting in injury are reported (British Crime Survey, 1996).

Women who suffer domestic violence are likely to under report incidents of abuse. In a study of 484 women's experiences of violence in Surrey, 2 out of 3 women who defined themselves as victims of domestic violence said they had not told family, friends or agencies about the abuse. (Dominy & Radford (1996) Domestic Violence in Surrey, Surrey Social Services/ Roehampton Institute).

Domestic violence has a major impact upon the health and welfare of women and children world-wide. The 1995 World Development Report by the United Nations shows, that on a world scale, it is a significant cause of disability and death (Social Services Inspectorate (1996) Domestic Violence and Social Care).

5% of health years of life are lost world-wide by women because of domestic violence (Social Services Inspectorate, 1996).

Psychologists in the USA have found parallels between the effects of domestic violence on women and the impact of torture and imprisonment on hostages (Graham, P. Rawlings E. & Rimini, W. (1988) 'Survivors of Terror: Battered Women, Hostages and the Stockholm Syndrome' in K. Yllo & M. Bograd (eds) Feminist Perspectives On Wife Abuse, London, Sage).

Research has shown that these effects include low self esteem, dependence upon the perpetrator, feelings of hopelessness about ending the violence, a tendency to minimise or deny the violence (Kirkwood, C. (1993) Leaving Abusive Partners, London: Sage).

Victims of marital rape suffer many of the same reactions as other victims of rape, including very severe depression and suicidal tendencies. Feelings of shame and degradation prevent women from talking about this form of abuse (Council on Scientific Affairs, American Medical Association (1992) Physicians and Domestic Violence: Ethical Considerations' in Journal of American Medical Assoc., 267: 3190-3).

Domestic violence is a factor in 1 in 4 suicide attempts by women (Stark, E. Flitcraft, A. & Frazier, W. (1979) Medicine And Patriarchal Violence: The Social Construction of A 'Private' Event, International Journal of Health Services, 9 (3) pp. 461-93).

• Find out useful phone numbers, i.e. local Police Station, hospital, Women's Aid etc.
  
• Keep a change of clothes to hand or at a friend's or family address.
  
• Have a spare key in a safe place.
  
• Gather up important documents, i.e. child benefit book, passport, birth certificates and place them with a trusted person for safekeeping.
  
• Keep an emergency cash fund.
  
• Figure out an escape route from the house in order not to get trapped by the aggressor.
  
• Have somewhere to go in an emergency.
  
• Avoid confrontational situations and confined spaces.
  
• Talk to your children. Make sure they do not answer the door.
  
• Alert the local police station to any potential threat.
  
• Have a back-up plan in case things go wrong.
  
• Always be ahead of the situation; think before you go out.
  
• Don't be afraid to ask for help.
  
• Stay away from known areas where the perpetrator may frequent.

Asking for help is never easy

Leaving a violent situation is never easy

Myths about children in families experiencing domestic violence

Myth: My partner is only violent to me – he never harms my children.

Fact: 1 in 3 abused children show a history of violence to their mother. Over a third of Childline callers said their mother’s partner had also abused them or their brothers and sisters. Witnessing or hearing violence has been shown to have a range of long term effects on children including guilt, shame, under achievement at school, terror, sadness, aggressive behaviour, low self esteem, bed wetting, eating disorders, depression and insecurity. A third of children present try and intervene to protect mothers thus putting themselves at risk of physical harm.

Myth: My children do not know about the violence.

Fact: Even very young children remember their fear of witnessing violence in later years. Babies may show poor health, be irritable, cry a lot and have sleep problems which get better once removed from the violent situation. Many children recall overhearing abuse and have said that not knowing if their mother was alive was more distressing than directly witnessing the violence. They sometimes felt guilty for not intervening to stop the violence.

Myth: If social services find out about the violence in my home, they will take my children away.

Fact: Whilst it is true that social services will want to make sure your children are safe, only a very small number of children are made subject of care orders and removed. Social workers will not take your children away, if they can work with you to make sure they are safe.

Myth: It is wrong to take children away from their father.

Fact: Fathers play an important role in children’s lives, but children also need to be safe. Research studies found that in 40-60% of cases where women were abused, children were also abused by the same man. 76% of children ordered by the courts to have contact with a violent parent continue to be abused.

Myth: If I leave, my children and I will be homeless.

Fact: There are hundreds of refuge services throughout Britain, which can provide temporary accommodation for you and your children. They can also assist you in finding alternative permanent or emergency housing or help you to remain on or reclaim your own home.

Effects on children

Domestic violence can start at any point in a relationship. Pregnancy or childbirth is often the trigger for the first abuse, also putting the child at risk. Babies show their distress through their health and development. Babies under one who live with domestic violence have been shown to be characterised with poor health, poor sleeping habits and excessive crying. Violence can begin or increase when meeting the needs of small children. They can be injured by being caught up in the violence.

Actual or threatened violence to your children can be another way of controlling you. Some men, by abusing their power over the children, deliberately involve them in the abuse of their mother, causing confusion and distress to the children involved.

Psychological damage and distress. The emotional abuse caused by witnessing violence can be serious enough for a child to be considered abused and placed on a child protection register or protected legally.

Children themselves tend to talk in terms of their fears, anger, sadness and loss. “I was sad. I had to leave all them wonderful teachers and then go to another country (Cumbria) …well, not another country, but a place that’s far away and I thought that’s hard for me.” (8 year old girl).

Children may feel powerless or guilty at being unable to prevent the abuse, boys in particular. Anger at witnessing abuse or being abused can make children aggressive. Some boys may copy their father’s behaviour by becoming violent or fear that they will become like him. Girls are more likely to internalise feelings and harm themselves. Feeling responsible for abuse to the mother is common, especially if it follows some behaviour of the child. This can lead to overly quiet and ‘good’ behaviour so as not to annoy the abusers.

Children can suffer symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder, which is a response to a traumatic event involving fear, helplessness or horror, and may have long lasting consequences. This can involve flashbacks or the child may be in a continuous state of anxiety, waiting for the possibility of further abuse to themselves or their mother. It leads to significant distress and impairment in all aspects of their life; school, play, health and the ability to form relationships.

There can be an impact on school attendance and achievement due to worry, lack of sleep and lack of concentration. Children may feel a need to stay at home in an attempt to prevent the violence/protect their mother.

Violence interferes with children’s social relationships. They feel unable to invite friends to their home for fear or shame of what friends may witness.

What can be done to help?

Mothers and children often use denial and silence to cope with the unbearable, and do not talk about what is happening. Most children appreciate the opportunity to have the violence acknowledged and to voice their views. Many children express their feelings for the first time once they are no longer in the violent environment and feel safe to do so.

Talk to your children. Be as honest as you can about the situation without frightening them. Reassure them that the violence is not their fault and that they are not responsible for adult behaviour. Explain to them that violence is wrong and that it does not solve problems. Remember, your children will naturally trust you – try not to break that trust by lying to them.

Make sure you know your children’s wishes and feelings. You might do this by talking together, or doing an activity together; making drawings or encouraging them to write down how they feel. If you have more than one child make sure each of them has a say in how they feel. Talk to your child’s teacher, they may be able to help.

There will be times, however, when you will want to protect your children by avoiding certain issues, such as the reality behind an imminent move to a refuge or another place of safety. You can make this move less threatening by saying that you are all going away for a little while to a special place for mothers and children.

Many refuge services have children’s support workers who will make your children feel safe and at home in the refuge, and almost all refuges will have other children staying there when you arrive. There will usually be a playroom for children, and the children’s worker will arrange activities for young refuge residents both in and away from the refuge. These children’s activities will benefit you as well as your children. You will have time to consider your own options and discuss your plans with other adults.

Living in a refuge can be a very positive experience for children. The children staying in a refuge have the opportunity to meet other children in a similar situation to theirs. They can talk about their experiences to each other and begin to understand that they are not alone. With the help and support of refuge staff, children can be helped to come to an understanding of their situation.

Men who are abusive to women are not necessarily abusive to children too. But it can happen. If you suspect that this is happening or that it has happened, it is important that you raise this issue with your children and take steps to protect them, for example, by seeking advice from the social services or other agencies who are there to assist and protect children. If your child, or a child you know, tells you that they have been abused or have witnessed violence and abuse in their home, here are some guidelines to help you acknowledge the problem with them:

• Listen carefully to the child and let them tell the story in their own time.
• Reassure the child that they are not to blame for what is happening at home.
• Show the child that you are concerned for them.
• Try to stay calm and not let the child see how shocked you are.

Domestic Violence - The risks to children

The reason I stayed I am afraid I cannot give you, only that throughout this time I really did love him and thought, maybe, just maybe he would one day change. After all he was the father of my children.

One day I realised, however that I was never going to please him. That nothing was ever going to be enough. That nothing I ever said or did was right. I then began to accept that I wanted out. At long last, I had finally made up my mind, but at the same time I knew that this was something that he would not want to hear. His statements and threats of the past, such as: "If I can't have you then no-one will" made me aware of this.

Literally, at the moment I told him, he lost control. He became physically and mentally abusive, dragging me out of the house with all his strength and finally throwing me into the back garden. "I'm going to kill you," he said, as he tightened his hands around my throat.

By now as you can imagine I was in complete terror. He was beyond reason. Nothing I said would make him stop. By the time he dragged me into the side alley of the house I was vomiting with fear. I managed to kick and scream at a neighbour's door; the neighbour came out, unperturbed by the whole incident, although by now I was hanging onto the edge of a wall screaming, trying with all my might to prevent him from dragging me into his car. The neighbour was trying to talk to him and at this moment I screamed: "phone the Police, he's going to kill me". "I don't want to get involved", she replied quite calmly.

I knew then that it was down to me to save myself. I found some inner strength and kicked and punched until I was free, barged past the neighbour, ran into her house and dialled 999. The Police arrived took a statement from me and he was escorted away.

I was a gibbering wreck and that night my sons and I stayed with my sister. The next day, after having time to see things more clearly, I decided I had to move forward - there was no going back. If not for my sake, for the sake of the boys. And with the help of friends and family I found the courage to leave everything behind me and move into a refuge where I began to rebuild my life.

Three years on I am happy and content. I am making something of my life. My children are also happy, growing into fine young lads and I am so grateful to everybody at the refuge for all their help and support.

Lorraine

It all starts as a normal routine life. I enjoyed a loving childhood as any child would, until I was 16 years old. At 16 I left home to start a life with my boyfriend. Everything seemed okay. It was hard. Money was tight, but even so we still managed to be able to go to the pub most nights with our friends.

My boyfriend who was 5 years older than me was a heavy drinker. Arguments started on the odd occasion, but nothing too heavy to begin with. Then one night, after too many drinks, he hit me. I was stunned, my head was saying so many things. Then because he said he was 'sorry' I thought: well maybe he is. Is this normal and should I forgive him? Like a fool I did forgive him. That was the biggest mistake of my life!

Life carried on and what I thought was normal - being hit and having to be abused verbally - became a part of every day life. I carried on like this for three years. On the outside I appeared happy go lucky with not a care in the world, but on the inside I was crying out for help. I was so scared.

The next error I made was to become pregnant. At 17 I had a little baby boy. Was he there for me during labour? No, I was on my own, but of course he was able to celebrate with friends the birth of his son - the proud father. How easily he forgot that he had put me in hospital while I was carrying his son. And he wasn't even there to see his son being born.

When I came home from hospital I thought everything had changed. He showered us with love and was so proud to take us out. It felt good, but that was short lived, as I was about to find out. Of course now we were both in the way of his heavy drinking sessions at the pub. I became so frightened. I hated the thought of going out.

My problems became worse. He was not only hitting me with his fists, he was using items from around the home too. I started to hide things thinking maybe he would use them on me next time. This pattern of life became normal. He would get up, saying: "Sort him out. - the baby needs this or that", then he would go to the pub, for hours, on our son's money.

I would be pacing the floor. "Have I done this, have I done that? What will trigger that blow today, or what will he use as a weapon?" I went on like this until I was 19 years old.

The last few day of my life with him, I was mad. He had asked me to marry him and I had agreed, and the day before I left, the registry office had been booked for us to marry later that year. I can remember the next day so clearly. I had taken our son swimming with my mum. I was relaxed until I had come home. He was there, high on drink, and he was not happy for whatever reason. Again I don't know why.

It was the last straw when I took another blow from his fist again, but this time I had to think fast. I had our son in my arms when he head butted me. This is what woke me up to him. That last blow could quite easily have been our son's head. No more was I going to take that chance.

I left. I got help from his parents that night to get me out. Finally, I went to a Police Station. The Police said he was known for his violence and they would get me out of the area.

I got a travel warrant for the train. I went to a women's refuge in Bexley Heath overnight, then needed to travel further, to Basildon Women's Refuge. This is where my life actually began - it's not easy being in a refuge, your first few days are so hard, so many things to think of. Had I done the right thing by leaving him? I had broken up a family unit after all. I just wanted things to be normal for our son with a loving mummy and daddy.

Many things went round my mind, but speaking to members of the refuge staff who were always there for me, helped. They asked me: "Is it really normal to BE USED AS A HUMAN PUNCH BAG?' Of course I knew the answer was 'No'. That was no life for anybody and certainly not the type of life I wanted for my son.

Today, after help from the staff, friends and my family, life is normal. I am married and have two wonderful sons. This is a family unit. My thanks go out to the staff of Basildon Women's Refuge, my family and my friends for both being supportive and for just being there when I needed them the most.

Sally

Where did it all go wrong? Is it my fault? I guess it must be. What am I doing in this refuge? I should be in my own home, my child's home. How did it get so bad?

Thinking back it all seemed so right. He was God's gift, every woman's dream. I could not believe my luck when he asked me out - my friends were so envious. He treated me so well, so full of respect. What a nice guy. So caring and gentle, so thoughtful - and he was all mine.

After a whirlwind romance he asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes, so the date was set and the wheels were in motion. A friend of mine wanted a chat. She told me about this other girl who Paul had gone out with. She told me that one night he had punched her in the face, after a date. I did not believe a word of it and told her so. She was lying; she was jealous. She must be.

We lived in a quiet part of town in our love nest, just the two of us. Life was all planned out for us. I would carry on working. We would save up and when the time was right we would try for a baby.

As time went by, Paul would not come home from work from time to time. I would wait up for him in sheer panic thinking something had happened to him. When he did eventually turn up after working very late, he did not seem the same Paul. It was like a stranger had come into our home. His presence made me feel unsure of the situation; my instincts were to hide away, shut myself away from this invader.

At first this behaviour was just now and again. I found excuses for this. After all Paul had a lot of stress at work. Then it happened. On that bloody awful night Paul was late home again, the third time that week. Instead of waiting up for him, unusually I had decided to have a bath and go to bed, so when he shouted up the stairs for me to get him something to eat, I just ignored him thinking that he would sort himself out. How wrong I was.

In the next instant, he came up the stairs and into our bedroom. I will never forget his eyes, the aggression in his body language, the slap round my face, him pulling me out of bed, the boot in the stomach. My mind was racing, my heart was pounding. What is happening to me? Am I going to die?

That was the start of things to come. Why did I not leave? Why did I stay? No one knew what was going on. I was so ashamed to tell even my own family. Everyone thought he was so nice and I was so lucky.

Eventually, I started thinking that if things were different then maybe Paul would be happier. Therefore the main focus in my life was Paul's happiness - his needs and wants. I thought that whatever it took, I could change this mess.

As time went by I became even more careful that everything was in order when Paul did show up. His favourite dinners were always cooked, and his shirts were all washed and pressed back in the wardrobe. If he was late home, I began to think: well he works hard, he needs to relax, he deserves it.

It was at this time I found out we were going to have our first baby. I thought things would be different. I thought that it would make Paul happy. This could be our chance to start again - this time as a complete family.

For a short time, Paul was over the moon. He was like he used to be, caring about me. This made me feel so special. Has my Paul come back to me at long last, I thought?

Unfortunately, Paul did not like the fact that I was putting on weight. He said that he found me repulsive, weird even. Still I believed that once our baby was born things would be different.

Our daughter, Hannah arrived after a long labour. When I saw her for the first time I was so happy. She was so small and so beautiful. Her dad will be so proud I thought.

He could not be with me at the birth. He had a lot on at work. Still I knew that he would be in to visit us at some stage. All the other husbands were around wanting to be involved. I felt a twinge of jealously and felt terribly alone.

Paul told me that he had wanted a boy. He also said that I could sleep in the next room with Hannah so that we did not disturb him.

As time went by Paul complained that all I cared about was that baby. He was the man of the house. He should come first he said. When he was around, I tried not to take too much notice of Hannah. Then one day when Hannah crawled over to her father he pushed her away, complaining that she might make his trousers dirty. Paul was very particular about his clothes. Hannah's little face looked so rejected. She looked how I felt - unwanted, unloved - nothing more than a nuisance.

We both learnt how to stay out of his way. Then one night after I had just settled Hannah down Paul came home early. I immediately knew something was wrong. I could sense that there was going to be trouble.

"Where's my dinner you slag". I could hardly speak because of the fear of what was about to come: "I will go and cook you something, I whispered". "Don't bother, it should already be on the table". "Paul, I did not know what time you were coming home". "Shut your mouth you lazy, fat cow".

He came over to where I was already cowering in the corner of the kitchen. He picked up a bowl of fruit and threw it at me with so much force that I fell to the ground. Please don't hit me Paul, please don't hit me, I pleaded. This seemed to make him worse. The attack lasted for about 5 minutes; to me it seemed like a lifetime.

Once he had left me lying on the kitchen floor I realised that Hannah was screaming. I managed to get to my feet, and then saw Paul with my baby in his arms: "there, there look at your silly mummy, she has tripped over again, and I bet next time my dinner will be ready, whatever time I get home".

Once Paul was asleep that night and little Hannah had settled down, I felt physically sick, and so very tired. I knew that I would have to do something about the situation that my daughter and I were in.

Paul got ready for work the next day as if nothing had happened, and I knew from experience that I would be safe from his attacks for a short while, perhaps a week or so. Once he had left for work, I looked through the local phone book and found the Women's Aid help line number. The woman on the other end of the phone gave me the local refuge phone number. I could not believe that there was someone on the end of the phone that was offering me advice and support. I decided there and then that I would go and speak to them.

Once there, I decided that we needed the shelter and safety of the refuge. I could not take any more!

Sam

Trembling fingers turn the key,
It's now or never him or me,
I just can't take it anymore,
I silently unlock the door,
My shallow breath, loud to my ears,
Please don't let him wake, I fear,
As he lay there deep in sleep,
The memories haunt me dark and deep,
Of kicks and punches raining down,
Him face creased in an evil frown,
My body later, bruised and aching,
From the beating I've been taking,
Abusive words cut to the core,
As I lie, shaking on the floor,
"Rotten mother, rotten wife"
You're ugly, look at the way you dress"
"No other man would look at you now"
You're stuck with me, you stupid cow"
Words designed to keep me down,
And let me know who wears the crown,
For he is king and I am slave,
So be a good girl, now behave,
I work my fingers to the bone,
Care for the children, clean the home,
keep receipts for all I buy,
So he can't say I'm telling lies,
About where I go and what I spend,
Daren't even stop to speak to friends,
For accusations will abound,
"where've you been? Sleeping around?"

Written by Nina

rush to the shop, get the kids from school,
The clock is ticking, he's no fool,
He knows how long the journey takes,
He won't allow for any mistakes,
One minute late and I'm in trouble,
Better get back, at the double,
If God forbid, I looked attractive,
His jealous thoughts would soon be active,
So I cover up as best I can,
Can't afford looks from another man,
He'd accuse me without thought or pause,
And hit me without any cause,
So I carry on my dreary life,
Just another down-trodden wife,
Then out of the blue something deep inside,
Rushes through me like a tide,
Forgotten feelings scream and shout,
"We've had enough, now let us out",
Dignity, Pride and Self-Respect,
demand to know why they've been left,
unused inside me for so long,
but now they're burning bright and strong,
for I'm a queen in my own right.
Off I walk through the door,
Now I know what life is for,
I feel free, the world is mine,
The sun is shining all the time,
So many things I'd like to do,
I will, I can, this is true,
But most of all, one thing is left,
Being alive is the best.

Why did I always make some excuse?
Why did I put up with years of abuse?
The answer is not easy; it took lots of time,
To realise I'm special and violence is a crime.

All through the ages the men had the power,
And physical strength that would make women cower,
Times have now changed; women put up a fight,
To live free of fear is everyone's right.

Our children are precious but with one childhood,
Let us ensure that it is carefree and good,
That their memories are happy, not tainted with fears,
Of seeing their mothers bruised and in tears.

History tells us of men's pillage and rape,
But we're in the present and it's time to escape,
Now women all over are making a stand,
And everyone here will give them a hand.

Awareness training

The award winning team at Basildon Women’s Aid are pleased to announce a further series of awareness sessions.

The awareness sessions are aimed at individuals and organisations and provide comprehensive specialist, experienced staff to share their knowledge.

Intended for both professionals and service providers from the statutory and voluntary sectors, the 2011 Awareness Sessions are designed to raise awareness of the dynamics and diversity that have an impact on domestic violence victims and the community.

All our sessions feature the services that are available to victims within Basildon Women's Aid and are presented to small groups of up to ten people.

The Awareness Sessions are free and attendees will be given information packages and refreshments.

Full details and directions to the venue will be sent following registration.

EVENT PRE-REGISTRATION IS ESSENTIAL

Domestic Abuse Training Days

In 2011, Basildon Women’s Aid conferences tackled challenging aspects of domestic violence, (including Honour Based Violence, ‘Don’t Hit my Mum’, and workplace issues) and featured national ‘champions’ such as Nazir Afzal from the Crown Prosecution Service, TV celebrity Alesha Dixon and City of London businesswoman, Fiona Bowman.

Our exciting conference line up focuses on ‘Talking to Teens about healthy Relationships in a Digital Age’

Once again the training sessions are aimed at individuals and organisations and provide comprehensive local, regional and international information and networking. Intended for professionals and service providers from the statutory and voluntary sectors, the 2012 Training Sessions are designed to raise awareness of the dynamics and diversity that have an impact on domestic abuse victims and the community.

Community Awareness Workshop Flyer 2012.pdf

Download Talking to Teens About Healthy Relationships in a Digital Age.pdf

Comments from attendee's to our past training days

"The unannounced appearance of Alesha at the event held at Ford, Dunton was a fantastic surprise for delegates who commented that the documentary was excellent and that it was brilliant Alesha actually attended."

“What a great idea having Alesha at the Study Day, and of course, the fact that she was available and willing to attend. Her documentary was very good and I have to say, seeing clips and then
discussing certain points was an excellent idea and really made people think - well done once again!!”

“Just to say the conference on Friday was brilliant and Alesha Dixon being there was fantastic, it really showed just how much she cares about families that have suffered domestic abuse and the work that Basildon Women’s Aid does”.

The refuge staff actively sit on three inter agency domestic violence panels, Basildon, Castle Point, Brentwood and Rochford. The aims of these panels are to:

• Create an awareness of domestic violence amongst other agencies and the general public;
• Reduce the incidents of domestic violence;
• Exchange information;
• Maintain confidentiality;
• Support victims of domestic violence.

Each panel has plans to meet their local strategy. All areas are included in the Careline Scheme.

A joint venture by the Basildon Domestic Violence Panel

An early project (initiated in 1996) was to run a pilot scheme with Basildon District Council and Essex Police to install their Careline alarms in the homes of women who were both living independently of their perpetrators and who also had access to a phone. This project was very successful and continues to run today and has spread to other local areas.

Alarms are installed in the victim's property and connected to the telephone line. A remote pendant is supplied which can be operated from anywhere within the house or the garden. In an emergency situation, simply depressing the button activates a call to the Basildon Careline Central Control, which provides a 24 hours service. At no time is it necessary for the victim to make an emergency telephone call to the Police, as a microphone within the unit automatically records all the events that subsequently take place. Ultimately, this may mean that more prosecutions are successful.

The cost of a single assault on a victim and family in terms of refuge accommodation, hospitalisation, child care, traumas, counselling and Social Services' involvement could well exceed the amount of sponsored money for Careline. However, what is not measurable in terms of cost is the peace of mind this scheme affords.

The Thorndon Jogglers charity bike ride from John O’Groats to Lands End (JOGLE)

The ‘Thorndon Jogle’ Cycle from John O’Groats to Lands End was successfully completed 22nd June 2011 after an arduous journey through all kinds of weather. The seven cyclists – Nick Wilkinson, Colin Smith, John Hughes, Paul Richardson, Ken Payne, Malcolm Bishton, Mark Starling and their support team Betty Mansfield, Bob Mansfield and Fran Wilkinson managed to raise over Pound12,000 for their three charities. Basildon Women’s Aid, Diabetes UK and Fragile X Society are all the lucky recipients of the money raised and this significant amount will make all the difference to our stretched resources for children’s activities this year. We are extremely grateful to all the team.

Best Company in the Community

The Echo Newspaper reported that the judges said: Basildon Women’s Aid provides a refuge for women and their children who have been victims of domestic violence, which may be physical, mental or sexual. It was a particularly moving experience for the judges to see the inspiring work taking place at Basildon Women’s Aid and the wonderful programme to encourage women to regain a sense of worth.

The judges were struck by the charity’s commitment to raising awareness in the community and its broad approach to tackling domestic violence at grass roots. The projects established in schools, to positively influence and educate young people about the need to create healthy relationships and to reject controlling or threatening behaviour, were particularly praiseworthy. The sustained commitment to continue targeting local clubs, groups and family centres, with the offer of talks on domestic violence issues and life in the refuge, and bespoke training initiatives on how to approach and speak to female sufferers requiring help, also makes Basildon Women’s Aid very worthy recipients of this award. This award will go some way to recognising and raising awareness of the excellent work carried out by Basildon Women’s Aid. Its team should be proud of their achievements and congratulated on their dedication and commitment to tackling domestic abuse.

Standing up for all the victims and survivors of domestic abuse

From the Echo Wed 25th Nov 09

Basildon Women's Aid Winners of Best Business in the Community & Highly Commended Basildon Business Awards 2009

Best business in the community There is no doubt Basildon Women’s Aid is a caring organisation where all staff show a true passion for their work in the community. They are always at the end of a telephone, to help abused women and children cope with domestic violence. Some are taken into their complex to help rebuild their self-esteem and confidence, in order for them to return to the community. Staff find time in their busy schedule to go out and raise awareness of issues connected with domestic abuse as well as generating financial support. Their training is extensive, and various workshops and open days are held for local businesses, agencies and the police. Special awareness days are held three times a year, attended by up 128 delegates. Staff visit schools to promote an anti bullying campaign. Their involvement with local businesses has led to the redecoration of the centre’s accommodation and the development of a garden project for children, with swings and a climbing frame providing a safe play area. The community support generated by the centre has seen the Friends of Refuge Kids Appeal organising a charity ball this year to raise funds for the children’s service. Staff are clearly dedicated to the community and provide genuine support. From the Echo Tuesday 21st July 09 Highly Commended - Staff Training & Development Basildon Women’s Aid maintains its reputation and standing within the community year after year. The team constantly strives to improve every aspect of its provision, and key to that is staff development and training. Staff are continually asked for their input in determining their own training requirements as well as attending specific courses. The enthusiasm within the centre is palpable. The workforce is passionate about the job and embraces training, which addresses the needs of both the individual and client. The list of courses attended by staff at Basildon Women’s Aid is impressive and diverse. Training has advanced to incorporate courses on subjects which are both topical and practical. In addition to staff training, the centre also presents community domestic violence awareness workshops, offers talks to various groups in the district, and continues to run workshops for Essex Police and Essex magistrates. Basildon Women’s Aid continues to impress, and it is likely we will see the centre nominated for awards for years to come. From the Echo Tuesday 21st July 09

Basildon Women's Aid Winners of Staff Training & Development 2009 Essex Countywide Business Awards

Lyn Headley and her team clearly have staff training and development at the forefront of their minds within the organisation. The firm presented a compelling case for judgement and at times had to be brought back on track, as it was also able to demonstrate how they train not only their staff but also the community including police, magistrates, health workers and raise awareness of ‘domestic abuse’ in the broadest sense.

The provision for staff training went beyond what would be expected for the various roles in the organisation, into courses that would have a tenuous link to the benefits that would be delivered back to the business. Staff are encouraged to recommend courses that are either available or that can be created to add breadth and depth to their skills for the benefit of the staff and the clients they serve. As mentioned, some of these skills have quite tenuous links to the business. This leap of faith approach is cultural in how Basildon Women’s Aid deals with matters that would have been taboo in previous generations. Talking directly to the staff, it was apparent that the training and development ethos within Basildon Women’s Aid was open to all staff, and that all staff readily engaged and participated in developing those around them as part of their own development and progression. The training and development practice was undoubtedly firmly embedded in their organisation and so was a delight to behold. From the Echo Tuesday 12th May 09

From the Echo Tues 30th Dec 08

Holy Family RC school children visited by refuge worker

From the Echo Mon 24th november 08

Domestic violence awareness highlighted in Rochford and Castle point

Charity Ball 2012 The events planning team are pleased to announce that in an effort to raise further funds next year we have arranged another Charity Ball on Friday, 14th September 2012 at Orsett Hall, in aid of the families at our refuge. This fabulous evening will be another prestigious event giving the opportunity to support children whose lives have been affected by abuse. We aim to raise more funds towards activities for children resident in refuge accommodation and we would be pleased to provide more information to anyone who may be able to help. The activities have included therapeutic projects but also fun events and trips as many of the children have never enjoyed a holiday break or day out without stress and upset. Following last year’s Ball, work on improving play facilities at the refuge has commenced and the children have enjoyed many fun activities and seasonal parties, unfortunately we have faced huge cuts to our funding this year making our fundraising events more important than ever. We are, once again, offering companies and individuals the opportunity to purchase a ticket or table, sponsor parts of the evening or provide an item for auction or raffle. Whilst any donations will be most welcome, any unusual or exclusive items will be particularly suitable for auctioning. We are taking bookings for tables now so please let us know as soon as possible. We are hopeful that we can rely on your support to make this event a memorable and enjoyable evening for everyone. Every sponsor will be acknowledged in all literature relating to the event and if you could offer any help in any way we would be extremely grateful. For further information: - Email refuge@basildonwa.org or phone 01268 581591 A flyer for the Charity Ball can be downloaded here: Download Charity Ball 2012 flyer 2.pdf

Oliver

Tickets cost Pound10 each and can be purchased from Lewis Simmons at Actz Entertainment, please call 01268 270066 All proceeds are to be split between Basildon Women’s Aid and La Dance Fantastique. Huge thank you to Actz Entertainment Agency and all cast and crew who have volunteered their time to put on this fantastic show for 2 nights at the Towngate Theatre. If you would like to sponsor the programme for this show please contact Lewis Simmons on 01268 270066 www.actz.co.uk

Volunteering opportunities

Thank you for your interest in becoming involved with Basildon Women’s Aid, for more information or to apply to be a volunteer please call Elaine: 01268 581591

All volunteers will need to complete a criminal records bureau check.

Volunteer Counsellors

Task description

To provide a one to one person centred counselling service to residents and outreach clients of Basildon Women's Aid. All counsellors must have attained a BACP accredited counselling qualification of at least Advanced Certificate level, and should be studying at 'Diploma' level or above. Qualified counsellors are required to have worked with clients within two years of working as a volunteer counsellor.

The services for women and children who have been subjected to domestic abuse is funded in various ways, the ‘core’ services for staffing and upkeep of the accommodation comes from government funded grants and from rents charged to residents. Our funding is always subject to change and we had huge cuts from April 2011 leading to staff reductions and cutbacks throughout our organisation. The services we provide for families include several interventions such as counselling, therapy groups, support planning, crèche provision, after school club and activities along with outings and seasonal events and it is clearly acknowledged that the successful prevention and early intervention work is the way forward to ensure that vulnerable children are given the best start in life. Unfortunately we have not been successful in securing continuation of the funding that has enabled this valuable work to take place and unless we are able to fund this work it will cease from April 2012

There are many ways that individuals and organisations can help ease the financial pressure our charity currently faces, support includes donations, which could be financial - see links below, time, expertise, new items, food, toiletries. A great help would be sponsorship of part of the fundraising Ball, or prizes for raffle or auction at the next Ball on 14th September 2012; friends and colleagues could make up a table of 10 and attend the Ball for a great night out whilst supporting the charity. Information on the Ball and other money raising events can be found here

You can support Basildon Women's Aid by making donations via the links below:

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